Something is not quite right. You can't put your finger on it 100%, but you can feel it. You suspect that you could have a better relationship, but you are not sure how to get there. Recently you might have been struggling to communicate with your partner. You might be feeling stressed, have low mood or have anger outbursts. You might be irritable and seem to be getting on each others nerves. Or you might have started to notice some changes in your patterns of behaviour around eating, sleeping, drinking or sex.
If you have some awareness around these changes in yourself or in your partner, or if you have heard those close to you comment about it, you might want to think about reaching out for relational counselling.
The advice of friends and family can be well-meaning, but are often biased. You may have looked at self-help books over the years, but they don't seem to make much of a difference in your relationship. You might have tried a number of different things, all to no avail, and you might be feeling stuck.
There is no need to keep your feelings bottled up. No need to keep struggling alone and suffering. Counselling is not only for people who have mental health issues, or for when its so serious that there are no other options. Counselling can help you optimise your relationship. It can also help you prevent even bigger problems from developing. Sometimes only a tweak here or there is needed to set you on the path to greater connection with each other.
It can feel scary to take the first step towards counselling. There are many times in our lives where we all struggle, particularly in relationships where there is no playbook or manual. It is normal to feel unsure, but take courage in knowing that help is available.
Couples counselling offers you the input of a trained, unbiased professional who will be 100% focused on your needs. I'm here to help you feel comfortable so that you can share with me. This is not a place of judgement, but rather one of acceptance where you will feel free to share your story.
Together we can examine what a different life might look like - one where you are more closely connected, have a stronger bond, can lean on each other, have fun, and build a meaningful life together. The online couples and individual relationship counselling that I offer can be done from the comfort and privacy of your home. No one needs to know that you are seeing a therapist, if that is not something that you are comfortable sharing with others.
I offer a free 15-minute phone call (which you can schedule here) before setting up the first appointment so that you can have all of your questions answered and get a feel for how I am as a person and couples counsellor. I am also available by email to answer any questions.
Disclaimer: This post is for informational and educational purposes only. It should not be taken as counselling/therapy advice or used as a substitute for such. You should always speak to your own counsellor.